I’ve recently been having a rather unfruitful discussion with Emma the Emo over the extent to which men’s rights supporters should avoid ‘being just like feminists’. She sees my belief that female sexuality is ‘mal-adaptive’ as akin to radical feminists describing all men as rapists.
Anyway, to be fair, the discussion did get me thinking a little over what would count as men’s rights supporters being ‘as bad as feminists’. Primarily, given that I consider feminism to be a (female) sexual trade union, what would count as a men’s rights movment becoming nothing more than a ‘sexual trade union’ for men.
First of all, I have no objection in itself to men forming amongst themselves a ‘sexual trade union’ to combat the feminist version that is responsible for the current rape of male sexuality, and the criminalization and destruction of untold thousands of men around the world.
Another of my readers – Ian – recently remarked that if it comes down to a battle between organized men and organized women, ‘the vagina will win’.
Actually, that’s not true. If men did organize themselves in the way that women have, and actually took on women, it wouldn’t even be a battle. It would be a massacre. A bloodbath. As we all know, the problem is getting men to form a male union that can defend itself and ‘fight’ women, and whether we are even psychologically or genetically capable of doing so. The fact also remains, that women HAVE organised themselves into a political army that seeks to crush men, and men have not even shown up on the battlefield (hopefully, we are starting to finally do that with the MRM).
Does male opposition to PUA and Game count as a form of sexual trade unionism?
I am inclined to say yes, and a not very effective, moral, or intelligent trade union at that.
The feminist sexual trade union seeks to further female sexual power, in particular female sexual market value. This applies to the vast majority of women. Even young attractive females arguably have their sexual power and choices diminished by the presence, for example, of ubiquitous free internet porn that serves as a substitute or alternative for a relationship with her, or at least distracts male attention away from her. The fact that most active members of the Sexual Trade Union (i.e. feminists) are middle-aged ugly crones, might be in large part due to the fact that political power invariably resides in the hands of older people, male or female. In fact, young women vote or economically franchise these feminists into power, as do middle-aged females.
However, no doubt a middle-aged feminist telling a young prostitute or porn actress, earning an upper middle-class salary for work she enjoys and freely chooses, that she is being ‘exploited’, is transparently an example of a (large) subset of females retaining sexual power at the expense of other (a much smaller subset of) females.
PUA allegedly gives men increased sexual choice and hence power over attractive women. On the surface, men, and certainly men’s rights activists, should welcome this. However, this is not the case. The reasons given of course will be that ‘PUAs are frauds’, ‘PUAs teach men to be pussy beggers’ etc. This sounds suspiciously like the older feminists telling the young porn star that she is being taking advantage of.
And the demographic of the ‘PUA hater’ does indeed appear to have a vested interest in limiting sexual choice for the ‘PUA’. Namely, the male opponents of Game appear to be largely older men and/or wealthy men who are no longer in the market (at least not without paying or without committing long term), and also young men who suffer from a lack of looks, status, or personality, who have ‘tried pua’ and found it didn’t help them to overcome those natural disadvantages.
No doubt the power of PUA and Game to change any man’s sex life has been massively exaggerated, not least by the PUA gurus hoping to sell bootcamps and e-books. However, for a young man with average or better looks, but non optimal social skills, general PUA advice can certainly help him get laid more often than he otherwise would (PUA detractors will still say that the advice that works is just ‘common sense’).
PUA allows average young men to take more of the pussy pie. And of course, it is young men who already enjoy a greater share of that pie. PUA essentially teaches young men not to stay in a committed relationship, that having sex with lots of decent looking women is possible.
Obviously, if you are autistic or below average height, or ginger haired, even being 25 wont help you walk up to attractive girls and get them into bed after a ‘neg opener’, or even to get a flakey phone number from them. If you are 60 years old, you will still have to pay for the premium pussy in some form – no amount of Game is likely to help you. In fact, you are more likely to have to pay given that the young attractive females have more young men chasing them with the knowledge and ability to get them into bed for free.
Thus PUA is good for ordinary young men with average or above average looks, not so good for everybody else.
Now most of my regular commentators are, like me, past 40. Most of them appear to be quite strongly opposed to PUA. Similarly throughout the men’s rights movement – it is older guys like Paul Elam who are most vehemently opposed to PUA, while it is the younger MRAs who support it.
Is this a form of sexual trade unionism, and what is my opinion of this?
As I said, I do not object to sexual trade unionism in terms of men finally banding together to stand their ground against the gynocratic privileging of female sexual needs, even if it means ‘being as bad as feminists’. However, if opposition to PUA is a form of male sexual trade unionism, it’s likely to be a short-sighted and unproductive form of it. This is because it is primarily seeking to diminish the sexual choices of younger men so that older men may benefit. It is men with low sexual market value trying to raise their own sexual market value at the expense of other men. In particular, other men who are likely to form the bedrock of any sex positive men’s rights movement that has the capability to take on feminism.
The question ought to be asked by men’s rights opponents of PUA : Is my sexual power threatened more by feminism or by Game?